!! दो लव्ज…. !!

Me: What happened?
Friend: I lost her.
Me: Sorry, but who, when, where, how??
F: (in a more sadly tone) I lost her. I lost Anita (name changed). She was never mine.
Me: You are sad when you yourself believe that she was never yours.
(They were not committed but guy always dreamt of her.)
F: But there was a hope dude! It was enough for me.
Me: Cool dear! Tell me what exactly happened.
F: I saw her getting intimate with a guy in lecture theatre itself.
Me: So, you concluded that she is committed to him.
F: I have many other reasons to conclude so and you know them dear.
Me: So what next now??
F: (started crying) why god never gave me anything which i demanded??
Me: shed tears and forget everything.

He left room in a while but left me with a question:-
“Does shedding tears, shed pain??”

I spent number of number of hours thinking, analyzing various situation, finding answer to this question, but sorry to say that I always ended up with another bunch of questions.

Is it human dependent??
Is it pain dependent??
Is it how individual tackles pain??
Is it situation dependent??
Is it dependent on people (friends, well wisher, pain giver (if any)) around us??
Is god really so??
And many more…..

A solution I would follow in pain is

“Thank god! You didn’t make me blind, deaf, paralyzed.”
“Thank god! You gave me awesome bunch of friends.”
“Thank god! You gave me a dad, who is not a drunkard.”
“Thank god! You gave me a mom, who is not in an affair.”
“Thank god! You gave me enough strength to live after this pain.”
“Thank parents! You gave me love, care, affection, and whatsoever I deserved.”

“Thank god! You didn’t give me a lot (I never deserved them).”
“Thank parents! You didn’t melted on my stubbornness (you judge better when should be melted and when not).”